Last Saturday, my daughter Norah went to see Hamilton in Dallas. Norah is obsessed with Hamilton, and has been dreaming of going to see it from the moment she heard the show was coming to Dallas. Hamilton tickets are not in our family budget. But Norah is not one to have her dreams thwarted. She is a maker, a doer, a person who brings things to life. And so, she set her sights on making enough money to purchase two Hamilton tickets. One for herself, and one for Rachel (pictured above). Her solution? Neighborhood bake sales.
In our house, we don’t do much forcing in the way our children spend their extra-curricular time. We hold them to academic standards. We hold them to household rules. We hold them to expectations about how they contribute to caring for our home. But we don’t make them participate in extra things unless they really really really want to. Resources like time and availability can be in short supply in our home, so if they say they want to do something, then we are all in. But if they feel lukewarm about something, then we politely decline.
One of the benefits of this approach is we get to see what our children are naturally drawn to by the way they choose to spend their time. We get to see their hard-wired talents emerge and find wings. For Norah, entrepreneurship is in her DNA.
Do you remember the story, The Little Red Hen? This version could be called The Little Red Norah. All by herself she made the cookies and bars and cupcakes. All by herself she painted a sign. All by herself she set up a table at the entrance of our neighborhood. All by herself she took the money she made from the first sale and invested in more ingredients, better equipment, and canisters from the Container Store so that she could keep her ingredients separate. All by herself she put her sister on the payroll so she wouldn’t have to sit alone. All by herself she saved her money. And all by herself, after many hours peddling her wares, she bought two tickets to Hamilton.
All four of my children have similar stories (although in differing arenas), and it makes me immensely proud as their mother to see their gifts flourish when give the space and time for them to do so.
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